A worried muma

I don’t know if it’s because the world has gotten a little more awful recently or if it’s simply because the older I’ve got the more I actually notice things; but every time I watch the news or even check my Facebook, I end up with a sense of dread for our future, particularly Rhys and Jaspers generation.

It’s not one particular news story that gets me, it’s just the daily slur of horrific/sad/scary/disgusting stories that turns me into this worried muma and make me think what kind of a world is this? Of course those involving children hit me the hardest, anything that makes me think that could have been Jasper really pulls at my heartstrings, and most of the time I feel sadness and compassion for those involved but I can hold Jasper a little tighter and think, I’ll be more vigilant from now on, I’ll look for those signs, I’ll avoid those places.

I’ve always kind of felt like I’m somewhat excused from those kinds of things, like that just doesn’t happen to me. Abductions and murders are for the papers not real life. Freak plane crashes and random illnesses just don’t happen to people we know. I know of course that any of those things could happen to me and my family but you just don’t worry about it. You read about it in the paper, let it play on your mind for a few hours and then your’e back to your daily life, blocking out the sadness that doesn’t need to affect you.

But more and more lately I feel like these things will affect us. Let me just say I’m not a negative person at all, I do like to think I’m a glass half full kinda gal, but as a mother now my life is so full of worry that I can’t help but look for the negatives as a way to air caution.

My worries are mainly travel related; terrorist attacks and plane crashes seem to be so regular now that it seems more real. Of course it’s always been real but going back to what I said earlier, it always seemed so far away.

I read an article the other day, I think it was shared on social media and was research conducted by Simpson Millar, all about high risk travel destinations and Spain, Greece and Turkey were named highest – of course they’d be the most likely places that we’d take the boys due to short flights, nice weather and not too high prices! The article shared the Foreign Office’s findings that over 17,000 Brits ended up in A&E abroad over the last 5 years and not surprisingly moped accidents, food poisoning and violence in the streets were top causes!

When I first read it I thought that’s it, we’re not going abroad anymore. It’s not safe for the boys or us. I also jumped to all these conclusions that by the time the boys are grown up travelling will be way too dangerous, they’ll probably be living under Sharia law and won’t have a glimpse of the freedom me and Pete have.

I did find it so hard not to get carried away reading the article. It’s easy to think I’m never going there again which was certainly my mindset until Pete reminded me that those places mentioned are all beautiful countries where we’ve made some beautiful memories.

Food poisoning can happen in the comfort of your own home, violence could happen in your local supermarket, moped accidents – well all you need is a boy racer type with a few beers in them to have those.

I think the point I’m trying to make is I can’t protect the boys from everything no matter how much I want to. Telling them I don’t want them to travel abroad would be completely hypocritical knowing these dangers aren’t isolated to abroad. All I can do is teach the boys and prepare them for the scary sides of life and just pray that our generation makes the right decisions now for our children sakes. I know there will always be dangers and therefore I will always worry but I would literally drive myself insane if I took those worries too seriously right?

Are you an overprotective parent? Do you worry like crazy now that you have a bambino? 

Thanks for reading,

Jess x


  • Dianne
    25th August 2015 at 1:09 pm Reply

    In the maternity hospital, when they hand you your baby they also hand you a huge bag of worry x

    • Jessica
      8th September 2015 at 10:47 am Reply

      They certainly do!

  • Hannah - Budding Smiles
    26th August 2015 at 1:28 pm Reply

    Try not to worry too much lovely, statistics are very easily manipulated to sell papers. Of those that end up in A&E and fighting, how many are the drunken morons in club destinations as opposed to kids or parents in family-friendly resorts? I think if you research a place and go on personal recommendations then you’re as likely to be as safe as a bust city centre here in the UK. I’ve travelled all over the world, including to some notoriously ‘dangerous’ places such as Rio de Janeiro, but by being sensible, not flashing my money or expensive camera around, not going out alone after dark, finding out the trouble hotspots and avoiding them, touch wood I’ve never had any issues. There will always be some elements of danger but I think the best we can do is educate our gorgeous boys to use common sense, to be logical and to exercise caution xx

    • Jessica
      8th September 2015 at 10:47 am Reply

      You’re so right lovely, it’s all about educating them to be wise. Wow I’d love to go to Rio! I travelled alone around Thailand and I was the same, not flashy, not going out in the dark alone etc. Thanks for reading lovely 🙂

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Hi I’m Jess, Single Mum, Accredited Life Coach, NLP Practitioner and Beauty Business owner.

I chat about all thing female empowerment, spirituality and positivity