A deal with myself

If any of you saw my latest vlog on my YouTube channel then you’ll know that I sometimes struggle with being a mummy. I do cope, I cope quite well in fact, but it can be very overwhelming at times.

I had a fantastic response from this video, a video that I actually considered not posting as quite embarrassingly, I cried during it, not once, but twice!

The kind words of support and encouragement from those who watched it not only made me feel like I wasn’t alone but also made me realise that I’d comforted some other mummies who were feeling the same way – this made me feel fab!

Anyway, I won’t go into the video, you can watch it here; but what I got out of making it and the response that I got from it, was a deal with myself. A deal to put myself and my family first. A deal not to give up on my plans of starting my business and succeeding in my blog and vlog; but to slow them down, prioritise and organise.

Each week I’m going to set myself less tasks so that not only will I be able to focus on Jasper more; but I’ll be able to complete these tasks easier and have less overwhelming induced mummy meltdowns.

So here is my deal:

*I’ll only do two blog posts per week – one on a Monday and one on a Friday; and one vlog per week (day to be decided). 

*I’ll share them on all social media mediums when they’re written and then tweet them once a day max.

*I’ll respond to emails and comments in the evening once Jasper is in bed.

*Housework will be done while Jasper naps, as will focusing on myself e.g. pamper time, reading, TV catch up etc

I think this is more than manageable. I’m not superwoman and instead of trying to be one of those mummies who seems to be able to raise 3 children while blogging daily and keeping on top of the housework; I’m going to admit that I’m just not that type of mummy … and envy them from afar!

Thanks for reading xx


  • Emily Vaughan
    21st July 2014 at 10:32 am Reply

    Great idea! I am trying really hard to only blog/edit while Indiana naps or is in bed. She’s far more important and blog posts can wait, whereas she can’t xx

    • Jessica
      21st July 2014 at 2:48 pm Reply

      Exactly, it’s tough though isn’t it. When Jasper naps I also want to be catching up on Towie and painting my nails lol

  • Katy {What Katy Said}
    21st July 2014 at 11:37 am Reply

    Oh bless u. I do lots when mine are in bed or napping. While they are awake they are the priority and everything else takes a back seat. Glad you have decided to keep at it 🙂

    • Jessica
      21st July 2014 at 2:47 pm Reply

      Thanks lovely, it’s just so tough, I want to do really well but there’s plenty of time for that, right now I need to do really well t being a mummy 🙂

  • BakedPotato Mummy
    22nd July 2014 at 6:58 pm Reply

    Oh bless you! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling. But it sounds like you’ve made some very sensible decisions and prioritised well. When D first moved to Dubai a year ago, and it was just Potato and me at home, I struggled too. I remember one of my early blog posts was about not having enough time to do things and the pressure I felt to get more done. I had to get tough with myself and stop trying to do too much.
    I really hope your plan works and you can focus on enjoying your beautiful little boy xx

    • Jessica
      22nd July 2014 at 8:10 pm Reply

      Thats it, being tough with yourself, that’s what I need to do – it is easier said than done though isn’t it!? Thanks lovely, I’m feeling better already 🙂 xx

  • Tin Box Traveller
    29th July 2014 at 1:12 pm Reply

    Just catching up with my reading and watched your vlog. I was in a very similar position to you a year ago – I was made redundant just after going on maternity leave, which left me with a work/income void. After a few months of feeling totally out of my comfort zone as a first time mum, I started to think about me again. I’ve always made an equal, if not the more substantial, contribution to the household. So being ‘kept’ felt alien to me. I’ve now got a part time job, am blogging more and freelancing. I’ve felt the same guilt about not spending quality time with my daughter who is now an active 18-month-old. Some days I feel like I’ve got the right balance and others I don’t. I think being honest with yourself and realistic about what you can achieve is the best way forward. I really enjoy reading your blogs by the way. You are doing a great job 🙂

    • Jessica
      30th July 2014 at 8:01 am Reply

      Hi Tin Box Traveller, thanks so much for your comment 🙂 It’s lovely to hear from other mums who feel the same as I do, especially ones who are doing well 🙂
      I’m hoping to start my business soon, so will have an income but if not I think I’ll be getting a part time job a couple of days a week. I do freelance but since having Jasper I’ve completely put that on the back burner so maybe I should get back into that.

      Thanks so much, I’m going to check out your blog now! Love to you and your little lady x

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Hi I’m Jess, Single Mum, Accredited Life Coach, NLP Practitioner and Beauty Business owner.

I chat about all thing female empowerment, spirituality and positivity