10 Downsides to blogging

I love blogging. A slight contradiction to the title of this post I know but I really do love it. I could rave on and on about what I love … the support, the friendships, the sharing … but despite this there are just a few things that somewhat bother me about the blogging world that has now become such a huge part of my life!

1 – Bloggers block

Now this isn’t one that has bothered me lately, in fact I’ve had quite the backlog of post to write; but a real downside to blogging can be not knowing what to write. In the earlier stages I’d sit down to my dedicated hour or so of blogging and be struck by the dreaded blogger block … blank mind = blank screen!

2 – I can’t say that …. can I?

The decision to write about certain topics or personal issues can be really tricky. Can I talk about that friend or family member? Can I mention that graphic part of labour or my honest opinion on this matter? I’ve become a lot more confident in speaking my mind. It’s my blog and if someone doesn’t appreciate the content than they don’t need to read it … having this view makes it a lot easier to keep my blog honest and a tad bit juicy!

3 – I need more hours in the day!

Where does the time go? Between having a newborn, keeping up with the housework and catching up with friends and family, it can almost be impossible to spend as much time blogging as I’d like to.

I have a list of reviews, updates and stories to write; comments to reply to, post promotion to do and that’s before I can sit down and catch up on my favourite blogs to read.

4 – Be original

How many ‘what’s in my changing bag?’ posts and Tags are there? I love taking part in them and I do so really happily but sometimes I just want to be a bit more original. I know it’s about my family and our life and that in itself is original but often I do wonder why I couldn’t have thought up that linky idea or written about that amazing post that everyone seems to relate to.

5 – Is anybody out there?

Sometimes all we want is a bit of love right? A ‘like’ here, a ‘share’ there, even the odd comment every now and again. I know we don’t write our blog posts for the feedback, but sometimes it’s great to know what someone else thinks.

Silent reading is a habit a lot of us have, I’m a bugger for doing it, but I’m making more of a conscious effort to let a blogger know when I like their posts.

6 – I have non-bloggy friends!?

Being so consumed with blogging and the cyber world can often make me forget that I do in fact have friends outside of blogging. I’ve found myself not replying to text messages from my friends and yet tweeting people who, although I’ve built a relationship with via Twitter or Facebook … I’ve never actually met or even spoken to on the phone.

7 – Cliqueyness

This one doesn’t affect me too much. I’ve made some fab bloggy friends, but there are the odd times that I see a conversation going on and I rally want to join in and comment and then I have to rethink. ‘Have I spoken to them much on Twitter before?’ , ‘What if they don’t reply and I look silly for trying?’ ‘Why wasn’t I tagged in that #ff?’. It’s all silliness but it does go on and can really put us bloggers down.

8 – Parenting blog reviewing a porn site … really!?

Sticking to my values, although sounded easy, was actually pretty tricky. Now that my blogs been around for a little while I’ve been building more and more PR and brand relationships. These are great and all but ‘would you like to review xxx porn site?’ is not something a parenting blogger is really up for! (This wasn’t a request I was sent by the way, but it’s an example that quite often PR brands will send out to blogs based on their stats and not their theme.)

I’ve been offered some rely great products of high value but I’ve had to say no because they’ve simply had no place on my blog. This sucks because sometimes the prospect of money is really tempting isn’t it?

9 – PR knock backs

As you can gather from number 7, I only work with PR and brands that suit Lilypod and Sweetpea. This means that sometimes I do contact PR companies when I have an idea for a collaboration. The most disheartening thing is when you don’t hear back. Yes they may be busy or simply not interested, but a courtesy reply wouldn’t go a miss would it?

10 – How did she get that!?

The dreaded blogger envy. I’d love to say that I don’t get jealous but I do … we all do … admit it!

I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve seen a blogger review a product and thought ‘how can I get that?’; or seeing a blogger tweet about their childs 10 hour sleep and learning to change their own nappy at 5 months (slight over exaggeration maybe) and thinking why haven’t I mastered this yet?


Do my fellow bloggers agree? If not then what are your downsides to blogging?

Thanks for reading! xx


  • Kim Carberry
    16th June 2014 at 3:29 pm Reply

    I agree with everything you have said….
    hahaha! Why would anyone think you would review a porn site…lol

    • Jessica
      16th June 2014 at 4:33 pm Reply

      haha the requests can be pretty ridiculous can’t they!?

  • tobygoesbananas (@tobygoesbananas)
    16th June 2014 at 3:37 pm Reply

    I’m definitely guilty of silent reading – I really am trying to comment more though 🙂 And totally agree about blogger envy too – I often wonder how some bloggers manage to get such awesome products to review! I still love blogging though, despite the few negatives!

    • Jessica
      16th June 2014 at 4:34 pm Reply

      I’m terrible at it, it’s something i’m really trying to work on but it’s hard enough keeping on top of my own blog lol Same, I do really love blogging 🙂

  • Hayley chall
    16th June 2014 at 3:43 pm Reply

    I completely agree with this! One thing I really don’t like is the competitiveness for views and followers, I started for the escape from the stresses of life but so find myself sometimes getting caught up in the want for more readers, but I don’t know why?? Annoying! Xx

    • Jessica
      16th June 2014 at 4:59 pm Reply

      It’s so easily done isn’t it!? I’m so happy for other bloggers ‘bloggy moments’ but at the same time wondering how I can achieve them

  • Nicola
    16th June 2014 at 4:24 pm Reply

    I think we can all relate to this post! Blogging is amazing, but sometimes it can be hard work. Your porn comment made me laugh out loud! So glad that wasn’t an actual request! Hehe 🙂

    Reading has actually inspired me to write a little post that I wasn’t sure whether to do or not, so thank you for sharing this! Xx

    • Jessica
      16th June 2014 at 5:00 pm Reply

      Ooh I’m so glad! I’m excited to read it! Tonight, as long as Japser goes to sleep I’m going to read up and make sure to comment on all my fav blogs, yours especially! I keep waiting for that ‘baby j is here’ post! xx

  • Jenna Richards
    16th June 2014 at 5:02 pm Reply

    I’ve only been blogging for a month and a bit but I’m so glad I started as it’s been fantastic for building support (which, as you know, I lack in my ‘real life’) but still I found myself nodding to every point (except the PR ones – I’m far too new for that).

    I have tried to comment more and more on blogs these days as since I’ve had my own blog, I’ve realised how much difference a comment here or there can make to someone. A lovely comment or tweet from a reader can make my day. So I try to spread the love! On that note, your blog is one of my favourites – I love your writing style and the topics you choose to write about and obviously… JASPER!!


    • Jessica
      17th June 2014 at 10:26 pm Reply

      They really do make the biggest difference, means a lot to hear from readers

    • Jessica
      17th June 2014 at 10:34 pm Reply

      I say go for it with the PRs, you have a fab blog with great content!

      Thank you so much, I love reading jasmines updates especially as she’s a teeny bit older than Jasper (9 days) so I can kind of follow your stages and know what to expect

  • Catriona Stephen
    16th June 2014 at 7:31 pm Reply

    A porn site!? That’s really shocked me!
    I’m guilty of silent reading, trying to remember to comment now though (a few weeks ago I probably wouldn’t have been posting this comment)
    I’ve found myself wanting to write posts but not sure if I should or not, I think I’ve done one or two I was a bit iffy about but was glad to get out there! xxx

    • Jessica
      17th June 2014 at 10:12 pm Reply

      I’m determined to comment more too, I read some fab blogs and realise a little feedback goes a long way! Haha the prom site was just a rather extreme example but didn’t actually happen lol you definitely feel so much better for just being open don’t you, I’m getting ore confident in posting things I’m not sure about

  • Danielle Hernandez
    17th June 2014 at 12:26 am Reply

    Unfortunately I can COMPLETELY relate to many of these! I get so jealous when I see other bloggers with a million times more views than me and I don’t think their content is that great. I feel terrible for feeling that way. Oh and one time I got asked to write a review for men’s aftershave….. !?! I also have several posts to write but can barely find the time to make one post a week! 🙁 #bloggerproblems LOL.

    • Jessica
      17th June 2014 at 10:07 pm Reply

      Haha it’s so ridiculous it really is as if the PR companies don’t even read our blogs first isn’t it? Haha it’s a hard life being a blogger isn’t it lol

  • Tiaz
    17th June 2014 at 11:43 am Reply

    This is a great post. I’ve been your ‘silent reader for couple of months now. i love reading your new post via my inbox on the bus to my midwife appointment.
    I feel like I’m learning via your blog on how to be a new mama.
    Hope you and the family are well.
    Looking forward to your next post. 🙂


    • Jessica
      17th June 2014 at 10:06 pm Reply

      Ooh well it’s lovely to finally ‘meet’ you 🙂 eek how exciting, when are you due!? See that’s so sweet thank you so much, I’m still learning so much too! Xx

  • Nicola
    21st June 2014 at 12:18 pm Reply

    Oh I feel bad for being a ‘silent reader’ now! But I really enjoy reading your blog Jess and it’s nice to see how you’re doing post-Dubai! Jasper is absolutely gorgeous and motherhood definitely suits you! xxx

    • Jessica
      29th June 2014 at 1:41 pm Reply

      Aww thanks so much 🙂 I’m terrible for being a silent reader, I really need to start commenting more, it’s just so tricky when you have a million other things to do isn’t it? xx

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Hi I’m Jess, Single Mum, Accredited Life Coach, NLP Practitioner and Beauty Business owner.

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