For those of you that don’t know, blogging and vlogging is not just a hobby for me, it’s a job. It’s not an official job; it’s still kind of on the cusp of a hobby that makes money but it’s one that I’m really fortunate to be able to focus solely on and love every minute of. Of course I’m a long way off making a full-time stable income from it but it is my only source of income as a stay at home mum.
As a family we’re really lucky that Pete earns well enough for me not to need to go out and work but honestly I think I’d drive myself crazy not having something to keep my mind ticking and give me that drive and focus. Yes Jasper is a full time job; and please don’t get me wrong, for all of you wonderful full time stay at home Mumas out there it is the hardest job in the world. I know this because I do it, but I do like to sneak away at nap times and while Jasper is at nursery two mornings a week, for a little bit of life in the fast lane.
I also think it’s very important for me to earn my own money; I don’t want to buy Pete’s Christmas presents with the money that he’s given me as an allowance, it just doesn’t seem right. As it stands Pete pays for everything, the house, the bills, the cars etc etc. I cover Jaspers nursery and then things like food shopping, fuel for my car and little bits and bobs that Jasper needs. This is what also motivates me to earn more because the more I earn the more I can shop for myself and my boys without asking Pete.
It’s a wonderful balance, as long as Jasper sleeps on time and my motherly house wife duties are fulfilled, I can lock myself away in my new office and enter the world of blogging. It just gives me such a thrill not only to blog and vlog which I love for so many reasons I’d need a separate post to write it all down, but to send proposals, agree on budgets, arrange meetings, sign deals with huge brands; do the things that I loved to do in my previous life and I wouldn’t get to do otherwise.
Of course though, it is tough; as all Muma roles are. Being a stay at home working mum is very different to being a full time working mum or a stay at home mum, I don’t fit into either of those categories. I’m not saying it’s any easier or any harder may I add, it’s just different.
Being a full time working muma, at home or in an office, your child is being taken care of elsewhere. Yes you think about them and worry and have the occasional disruption when they need picking up for being ill but in general you’re able to focus solely on your job with minimal child-like distractions.
Being a stay at home mum means you get to focus solely on well just that, being a muma. Play dates, baby groups, doctors appointments, family visits. All centered around you and your families needs.
Both of these options are wonderful in so many ways; I often crave for the full time working life again, earning a full time wage, having more of a structured routine and climbing the career ladder. I also sometimes wish I didn’t have this constant need to grow my brand; that I could switch off after Jaspers in bed, meet up with friends any time I want without constantly thinking of my blog list in the back of my mind and know that when my mum duties are done, I’m done.
In so many ways though, I don’t want either of those roles. I love growing my brand, as tiring as it may be, I love that I have this space I grew from nothing that has not only helped me but helped so many others in this journey of parenting. I also love that I can take Jasper to baby gym and swimming, have lazy mornings with him and not get the dreaded Monday morning blues all while earning a humble income.
Being a stay at home working muma means you’re juggling a combination of both working and mum life. I find it such a difficult yet wonderful fine line that often blurs and gets jumbled into a mess of crying and unorganised mess with a lot of proud moments in-between.
When you’re a stay at home mum you work your working schedule around your mum schedule; at least I do anyway. I write, film and edit while Jasper is either napping or at nursery and I check emails and keep up to date with social media while he’s busy with a toy or watching tv (not very often may I add). Deadlines become rough estimates and dependant upon Japsers cooperation during bedtime and dinner time. More often than not emails go unsent, blog posts remain half written and blog footage unedited; but when I get paid, sometimes quite wonderful amounts of money, for a piece of writing I loved to create, in my pjs, with a cuppa, knowing my son is sleeping right next door; I know I’ve got the right balance for me.
Now I know not all Mumas have a choice, some Mumas have to go back to work to financially support their families, some Mumas have to stay at home because the cost of childcare would be too high to go back to work. If you do have the choice though, to stay at home with your babies and spent a few hours a week building your own business, whatever it may be, please do go for it! Yes it is tough, it’s a learning curve, some days you have to just say oh f*** it and lay on the sofa and cry but you’re your own boss so this is okay.
I’m going to do a post on tips for working from home while looking after your bambinos; a kind of collective of organisation, motivation and do’s and don’ts; so please stay tuned for that!
I hope this gave you a nice insight into my situation and now you know why my schedule is sometimes rather, unscheduled!
Thanks for reading 🙂