If you follow my blog, Youtube channel or any of my social media outlets then you’ll surely know that Jasper isn’t a sleeper. My constant ‘he woke up 5 times’, ‘I’m having a meltdown’ style rants seemed pretty constant and when Jasper hit the grand old age of one I really felt fed up!
Well ladies and gentlemen …. at 13 months and 5 days old … he’s nailed it! Last night Jaspy did a full 8-7:15 with not one single interruption.
Before you tell me not to hold my breathe, he also managed the 3 nights before with only waking once in the night and self settling within a minute or so … so we’ve had a good 4 nights *hallelujah*.
I know things can all change; teeth, colds, yucky nappies …but at least I now know he’s capable of doing it and I won’t be tempted to go back to night feeds or helping him settle unless he really needs it.
Now what did the trick, I hear you wonder? I’ll be honest, I don’t really know. We’ve tried everything so many times that I can’t be sure whether it was something we did or just the right time for him to sleep through. I definitely think that consistency, stability and comfortability are key. We had so much moving around from house to house and room to room that it was really difficult for him to get any sense of normality.
Jaspy went into his own bedroom, as soon as we moved into our new house. He was out of that noisy travel cot and into his cot. He was away from the noise of me and Pete snoring and tossing and turning; in a dark room with a blackout blind. He had the door open ajar with the hallway light on so that he could still see around his cot if need be.
If he woke in the night I’d leave him 5 minutes then settle him only with water and ‘shh-ing’. If he seemed in pain I’d give him calpol but I wouldn’t bring him into our bed anymore or give him milk.
As soon as his skin got better, he wasn’t scratching anymore and this definitely improved his restlessness at night. His constipation I think also kept him up at night so when this went, his sleep seemed to improve.
Another major change was the switch over to cows milk. Of course this did add to his constipation but once we added some fruit and fibre to his diet that evened off and calmed down.
I also worked on getting him to fall asleep by himself during his daytime naps but leaving him in his cot with his milk or water. After a while he would finish his drink, roll around babbling to his toys and then drift off by himself. Eventually he then started doing this in the middle of the night too until he just stopped getting himself into a wakeful state wondering what was going on, and felt comfortable enough to just drift back off .
I’m so so proud of my little sprog. It’s taken a lot of hard work and tears to do it; a lot of missed play dates to stay in and stick to his routine; a lot of guilty ‘I shouldn’t be leaving him to cry at 3am’ feelings; but ultimately it’s all worked out perfectly.
If your little one isn’t sleeping through and you’re at your wits end about it I will say just persevere. All of the times I tried routines I gave up after a few days because nothing changed but I now know that Jasper just needed consistency. He needed me to really persevere and stick to my guns to help him get his own rhythm.
I’m so happy he can now finally have a good night sleep and wake up feeling refreshed in the morning … and of course I’m over the moon that I can now too!
Thanks for reading guys!
One very rested Muma x