While I was pregnant with Jasper I had all of these preconceptions as to what kind of mother I’d be and, as a result, what kind of person he would grow into.
There are so many things I said I would and wouldn’t do that now seem so irrelevant; for example giving him sweets, letting him stay up late, putting the tv on to give myself a break. Sure these have some negative consequences but really they’re not that important are they? If I end up with a chocoholic couch potato for a baby then feel free to give me a swift *I told you so* but realistically, these parenting choices now aren’t going to affect his future; not like the choices I make to develop his personality anyway.
There’s so much I want in life for that little boy but if I can make sure he has good morals and attitudes then I know he’ll go a long way without worry.
Here’s a glimpse of what I try to instill in Jaspy:
Always be kind
Kindness goes a long way Jasper; unkind words hurt and often dig deep. Think twice before you speak and consider how that one smile, one hug or even holding the door open for a stranger could really impact their life.
There’s plenty for everyone. Your toys, your food, your time. All of these things could benefit another and without leaving yourself short, it’ll feel amazing to give to others.
Don’t give to receive. Don’t love in exchange for love in return. Don’t be a pushover but don’t put conditions on your love.
We all tell white lies sometimes Jaspy. Like when daddy tells mummy she looks beautiful after a sleepless night; but don’t go too far. Own up to your mistakes, tell people your troubles and your shoulders will forever be light.
Open doors; carry shopping, lend an ear, tidy. We all need a little help sometimes; I’ll do my upmost to always help you with everything and I’d love for you to WANT to do the same to those around you.
Walk in their shoes
Always be considerate of others. Someone may not hold the door open for you or say thank you when you do for them; but consider their feelings. They may be having a bad day. They may not be as loved or as lucky as you. Treat everyone the same . Yes people earn respect but I also want you to give people chances.
Please please please remember how lucky you are. Whether you get a bike or a biscuit for Christmas – be grateful. Whether your grandparents give you a tenner or a penny; I hope you jump for joy and realise what you have. Thank you’s are so important can really make someone feel appreciated.
Respect your elders; respect your friends and most importantly respect yourself. The strongest men in the world are those who show courtesy, kindest and respect. You may not understand this till you’re a lot older but you will get it.
You’re a cheeky chap at the moment Jaspy … a really cheeky one. You may not know right from wrong, gratitude from ungratefulness but you will when you’re old enough. I can’t wait to watch you grow into the polite and strong boy that you’ll become.
What do you want your child to be when they’re older?
Thanks for reading,