Confident You – With Mamas and Papas

Now that I’m expecting again, I’ve been thinking a lot about how life changed after Jasper was born. I’ve been thinking about what I’d like to do differently this time, what I’d like to do the same and whether or not I’ll learn from the mistakes I made first time around. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t drop him down the toilet or anything but I see now that there was probably a lot I could have done differently, mainly for myself that of course would benefited Jasper too.

I was so focused on doing everything right for him that I forgot about myself, when in reality me being healthier and happier would have only done more good for him.

When I first had Jasper my stomach snapped back to shape within weeks, days even. I was so pleased with this that I hardly noticed the other things that didn’t change so quickly. I look back at new mum me and I see now that it took months to get my confidence back.

My hair lived in a mum bun, I ‘didn’t have time for exercise’, I ate on the go. All things that yes as a mum we sometimes have to do but I think I let it drift on a little too long. I LIVED in leggings, the same leggings the saw me through my pregnancy. I hardly went out with friends, I said no to a lot of opportunities and I’d always been too busy to cook dinner for Pete or get the house work done. In reality I could have done all of these things, I just needed the confidence.

Now I’m not saying I expect new mums to turn into superwomen or anything, not that they already aren’t, I just see now that realistically, I had time. I just lacked the confidence, the get up and go to actually make any changes.

That’s why I’m so pleased to be a part of Mamas and Papas Confident You campaign; showing mumas that a healthy, happy you is a Confident You. Please check out the wonderful infographic below, not only does it give an insight into the stats of new mums but it can give you some wonderful inspiration into how you can become healthier and happier in the simplest of ways.

You don’t need to enter a strict diet or fitness regime, simply take care of your diet, take your baby for walks and while you’re looking for delicious and healthy recipes for your bambino … include yourself too; you and your little one both deserve it!


I’ll definitely be focusing on my health throughout this pregnancy and when bambino arrives; not only for me and the newbie but for Jasper, Rhys and Pete too. I want to keep my energy levels up; remain positive and feel confident that I can be the woman of this house aka superwoman.

Did you lose your confidence after you gave birth, maybe you’ve lost it now or are worried you will? I’d love to ear your thoughts,

Thanks for reading!
Jess x


  • Harriet Lee
    15th February 2016 at 10:09 am Reply

    This is a great post Jess. I definitely lost my confidence after having my daughter. I just didn’t feel like me anymore especially as my body certainly did not ping back into shape and I didn’t even recognise myself when I looked in the mirror. I also definitely agree that becoming a Mother has made me much more conscious of what I’m eating / how much I’m exercising. Slowly but surely, two years on, i’m regaining my confidence! xxx

    • Jessica
      17th February 2016 at 8:54 am Reply

      I’m so glad you’re regaining your confidence Harriet, it’s crazy to think how much these babies can change our lives in ways we never even expected!

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Hi I’m Jess, Single Mum, Accredited Life Coach, NLP Practitioner and Beauty Business owner.

I chat about all thing female empowerment, spirituality and positivity